Elders do not always air their problems for fear of getting hurt
Elderly care can be emotionally trying for both the cared and the caregiver. On the one hand, the caregiver rues the fact that a healthy individual has metamorphosed into a sickly senior and on the other hand the elder parent or individual feels that he is robbed of his sense of independence and is hence emotionally drained. Addressing this problem is not easy, but reassurance has to be given time and time again to reiterate the fact that the senior is not alone in his troubles. Sometimes it may so happen that the elderly person may have to be left alone for sometime or for part of the day. This can be agonizing for both. The caregiver is always on tenterhooks wondering if the aged individual is safe and worrying about strangers entering the house and rendering it unsafe. The senior keeps waiting for the caregiver to return. Loneliness can be very disturbing for them.
The other important factor, which is also very relevant, is how they will fend for themselves during mealtimes. If they can cook, will they turn off the stove and if they just have to eat without having to cook, will they be able to manage to warm the food without causing harm to themselves. If medication needs to be taken before and after eating can they be relied upon to take the correct medications in the correct dosage. The caregiver has got to think, anticipate, and find ways to take care of all this. Balancing safety and needs without compromising too much on independence is a task by itself. If there are other family members to take care, the problem is slightly less and with paid caregivers, the emotional quotient will be missing.